Growing together, not apart

My dear one, 

I find it incredibly sad when a husband and wife divorce, claiming to have "grown apart." How can that be, unless they were never one in the first place? I view marriage as a sacred covenant before God, and also as a miraculous blessing given by God -- the two become one. To "grow apart" would be like an arm tearing itself away from the body, claiming it needed "space." Divorce is a word that should not be uttered or even thought by a husband and wife, any more than the ending of a life should be considered an option.

Yes, it is true that I have lived independently for some time now, but that does not mean that I would want that same independence or space within my marriage. I've always thought it to be a dangerous thing for a couple to have "his and hers" bank accounts, for instance. My darling, in our marriage, we must live as one, with unity of purpose and goals. There can be no competition of priorities, such as I see on these "house-hunting" TV shows where the husband and wife are looking for two completely different homes. As your wife, it would be my aim to support your decisions, goals, and ambitions, contributing my own assets to strengthen you but never to be in competition against you. 

I am not one to shy away from or diminish the words of Ephesians 5:22-23... "Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church..." This may sound like a strange confession, but I long for someone to whom I can submit. I need someone I can trust, love, and yes, even spoil. If you have my trust, which is something I do not give hastily, you will have my loyalty. 

Sweetheart, I want to be valuable to you. I want you to need me and pray that you will never feel like I am pulling you down. If you are growing in a particular area, it would be my desire to grow with you, not apart from you. We must be students of each other, desiring to achieve unity of purpose. And most importantly, we must be students of Christ, for as we set Him before us and press on toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God, we can't help but grow closer together!

All my love, 

Me